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‘Domestic violence’ nowadays it is very common word uses by people time to time, but how many women’s really knows about the right definition of domestic violence? Generally we take out meaning of only physical torture from domestic violence but only a very few of us knows that domestic violence also include all type of mental harassment and, emotional torture too.

In our society almost all married women are suffering from emotional torture, mental harassment or insulting behavior of their husband or his family members. How many women’s rise their voice against her insult which happens almost daily at their home? I think none, we the women’s have been very used to with all these situations.

When we were a young girl we have seen our mother to hearing bad comments from our father or from our grand mother, and we have seen our mother to bearing everything silently. As we know every child ,specially girl child learn a lot from her mother and this type of bearing behavior a young girl learn from her mother. in Indian girls there are a basic mentality some where in mind to bear everything silently in a very optimistic way that every thing will be fine some day and bearing things and non replying attitude is a one of the basic character of a good daughter in law.

But how long we will give this education to our daughters? When we the Indian mothers will stop saying to our daughters keep quite ,every thing will be all right, do not argue with your husband or their parents, how long we will peach like that?

My friend done the thesis on domestic violence but she has suffered a lot mentally and emotionally after marriage, but still she is not able to raise her voice against all these thing due to her own parents due to her moral education which is given by her mother regarding an ideal daughter in law and due to so many personal reasons about that she do not want to talk.

But for her 3 yrs old daughter my friend thinks completely different she does not want to teach her the theory of bearing situations she always teach her to take voice high on wrong behavior either it has done by anyone.

As a mother its our responsibilities to give courage and make her daughter so strong to raise her voice against any type of domestic violence.

Article written by
Mrs.Shanu Srivastava
Psychiatric Counselor