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Misunderstanding

How many years have you been suffering?: 
4
Email: 
send2rakesh@gmail.com

Dear Sir,
I got married in 2001 and thereafter we both hardly live togther happily even for a month time.Always have fight on small issues and mainly it is due to misunderstanding.Becuase of that my mother(a widow)and sister also left me alone for 2.5 years but then also the quarrel between us didn't stopped.My sister and my mother is staying in near vicinity.In 2004 we got a son through scessarian method(operation) and due to that my mother in law came from Bihar to assist us even though my own mother was residing in near by area ,only to please her I didn't force.Since delivered baby was a boy now her behaviour undergone drastic change.My job required to come work late night and because of that I reach home between 11:30PM-1:00AM.She is not even bother to open the door untill and unless I contineously ring it for at least 10 times,she never serve me dinner,I have to take it myself even I complained to her father,besides that I need to sleep on carpet while my son and she used to sleep on bed next to me.One day I was seriously ill and when my mother come to know that I am not well she visited my house and taken me to doctor and because of my critical condition,she stayed with me for 3-4 days,this was not acceptable to her.I stiil remember the day when I fuly recuperated from my illness and went to office,my mother was suppose to leave the house next day,When I came from office at aound 9:30PM(somewhat early),she has not cooked the dinner,when I enquired she start shouting on me and because of that I slapped her twice.She start threatening me of sever consequnces as her parents are very influential.After two days she left my house and since then she is staying with her parents along with my son.She denied access to my son also.It is more than 2.7 years that I haven't seen my son.Please let me know what I can do?Any help will be highly appreciated.
Thanks in advance

City: 
New Delhi
Will your parents Help you?: 
Yes
Have you got expert help in the past?: 
NO
Problem in short: 
Misunderstanding between us.She is staying with in laws since july 2006 and does not provide access to our 4.5 year old son.
Can your friends help you?: 
No

Comments

regarding counseling help

Dear Rakesh,
As a psychiatric Councellor, what I can understand from your breif narration that the problem tranformed from bad to worst due to lack of comunication with in you and your partner.There can be many reasons for that such as Ego-Clash or misunderstandings, etc.In my view your sitvation is difficult but there is a very fair chance to improve it, for that you both need a family councelling sesions.
If it can't be posible along with your wife innitialy then you alone can take a step forwared.
Regards,
Shanu

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