Should she stay just for her kids ??/
Hi, please help! My friend has been in an unhappy marriage for 2 years. Her son is 2 years old. Before their marriage they broke up because the husband had another woman but she found out later she was pregnant and her husband married her unwillingly. All through out the pregnancy the husband was unsupportive and uncaring. They never share a room and bed since they marry. My friend is 40 y.o. She is desperate for a divorce but is worried that if they divorce, it will affect the child. He says he will never love her again, will never sleep with her and will never suggest a divorce. Please let me know how to help her. I've always thought it was a mistake that they got married.
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Divorce not a solution
Strongly suggest that divorce is not a solution.
Reason:
(i) The age factor does not give any benefit to start the divorce i.e 40 y.o.
(ii) The fact does not change that you are the wife and not she whome he loves.
(iii) The day your husband wants to get out of this relationship happily give him a dovorce, or if you have any affair go ahead and become a free bird by the word "Divorce". But if no one is heading towards divorce dont initiate. Atleast he is not voilent. Its just that he doesn't love you at this stage. WIN the heart with your patience not by just a right that he is your husband thats why he should love you.
Yes I agree he is doing morally wrong , but would you not like to win his heart may be through your son.
(iv) Lastly the story above just shows that you are only worried for freinds not getting physical with his husband. Is that the fear or wekness. Analyse a little bit you have a answer on your own.
IF he can be a good husband may be he can be a good father but down the line of few years.
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Re: Should she stay just for her kids
Only solution is divorce.
1) because her husband does not have character
2) Has been disloyal from the very beginning
3) Has been unsupportive and uncaring.
4) Want to know what is the husband's attitude towards the child
If the husband behaves the same with the child , then i would suggest divorce as the only option.
Maybe she may feel guilty now, but later she would be happy that she has taken the right path.
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