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Yesterday I went to a restaurant on dinner. There were many married couples all around me. Few of them came along with their children and some were with their spouse.
There was one thing which was common in every couple and that was SILENCE. No one was interacting with their partner in fact both husband and wife was not seeing to each other both were looking here and there.

Lot of questions have evoked in my mind why both husband and wife are silent? Do not they have any thing to share with each other? why there is lack of communication? Who is responsible for that silence ? is that a long time period of their married life which is responsible for that or their attitude or something else?

I have finished my dinner and came back but gloomy faces of couples were roaming in my mind, being a psychiatric counselor I really wanted to find out the actual reason of this situation .

Lack of communication can be very harmful for a married life. It can self generate many problems between spouses. I am very anxious about this. I was thinking ,When we were unmarried we all live in fantasy world and we do endless chatting with our dream girl/boy but what happen when that dream girl or dream boy is with us, living with us from long time as a life partner.

After a brainstorming I could find the few reasons behind such behavior.

Firstly I want to tell that it is our general thinking that after two three years of married life, all the attraction get lost and spouses lost their interest with each other. In my view it is a myth, any relationship gets stronger with time, this can be true for only sexual relations that may be less, but emotional bonding get deeper.

It's all our attitude which is responsible for this situation, we do not enjoy small moments of our life we always wait for something big, it is all our thinking. Infact going for a dinner with our partner, it can be a small moment but it can be so memorable for both of spouse it is all depend on the attitude. A positive attitude can make a small moment of your life so enjoyable.

Always leave your conflicts at home before leaving home for outing.
Don’t wait for your partner to start chatting you can also start. Always talk on positive issues, do not discuss any controversial issue in public places, any problem can be discuss at your bedroom.

Always try to be positive, show positive and behave in a positive way. Try to follow this in your attitude and I hope there will not be any silence between couples.

Article By
Mrs. Shanu Srivastava
[Psychiatric Counselor]